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The Definition of a Man as Defined by a Good Woman

A man is Strong; Men are strong both physically and mentally. A man’s mental strength is not defined in the times of triumph but in times of failure. It is only when pushed to a near breaking point does a true man become defined. Does he quit or does he get up and try again? Does he let himself be suppressed or does he rise to free himself from defeat?

A man is Decisive; A good man takes the time to think before he acts. His emotions do not decide his fate but rather his mind and when he comes to a conclusion, he sticks with it.

A man is Confident; Never to be deterred, a good man follows the beat of his own drum. He knows that the path he is on will lead him to where he wants to go. He does not let the questions of others bombard his mind or make impressions on his heart.

A man Knows When To Admit His Mistakes and Owns Up To Them; Even good men make mistakes. The test of a good man comes in how he makes up for the mistakes he has made. Does he repent and ask forgiveness from those he has harmed or does he shy away in shame at what he has done?

A man is Responsible; A good man is not only responsible but also takes responsibility for his actions. He can be trusted to live by his word and in times of his short comings, he does not simply brush it off.

A man is Kind; A good man does not play with a person’s emotions and makes sure that his intentions are made clear. He gives to those who give to them and helps where he sees a need.

A man is a Protector; Never to be toyed with, a good man does not back down when his loved ones are in danger. 

A man Understands His Woman; The true test of a man comes in his daily interactions with the one he calls his own. He knows her deepest secret and delves into the dark parts of her heart. A man knows and understands that without fully understanding the woman he is with, that any relationship between the two will fail.

About Carla Clunis
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—— By: Carla Clunis

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Rest in Peace Nelson Mandela (July 18, 1918- December 5, 2013)

“Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world”

“There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living”

 “Any man or institution that tries to rob me of my dignity will lose”

“To deny people their human rights is to challenge their very humanity”

“In countries where innocent people are dying, the leaders are following their blood rather than their brains”
“I do not deny that I planned sabotage. I did not plan it in a spirit of recklessness nor because I have any love of violence. I planned it as a result of a calm and sober assessment of the political situation that had arisen after many years of tyranny, exploitation and oppression of my people by the whites”





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There are million stories and events some we have heard of and many more personal. I really have no care about the latest events that surround the Miami Dolphins and L.A. Clippers. However, this idea of the n*****word being thrown around as if it is o.k. Amongst African Americans is a LIE! I love Hip Hop, but every time I hear the n’word I cringe. Yes, Chris Rock had his joke about two kinds of black folk, and even Richard Pryor with his brilliance and weakness had a different perspective after a trip to Africa. These events are a confirmation of an educational failure, a people of loss and a lack of knowing the truth.  Anyone who uses the word lets me know they have no clue of where they are, who they are and why they exist. As I was thinking about this topic I wanted to find historical event and stories that could shine a light on why this word has no place. Taking this word out of your vocabulary is not going to change how other people see African Americans, it may not stop crime and it may not improve the economic conditions of the black community. But, this word is evil and it has a connection with homicide and genocide. So, those who think this is a word of endearment add another word that reflects your consciousness and humanity-Suicide. – Glenn D. Andrews- 



noun \ˈkär-mə also ˈkər-\

: The force created by a person’s actions that is believed in Hinduism and Buddhism to determine what that person’s next life will be like

: The force created by a person’s actions that some people believe causes good or bad things to happen to that person

Karma. (n.d.). Merriam-Webster. Retrieved November 20, 2013, from

 My wife was listening  to Steve Harvey’s radio show this morning, and the question of what would you choose if someone offered you a lump sum of money in the exchange of your loved one.  The answer was easy for me because I understand KARMA.  What I have come to understand is when you do good deeds, good deeds will happen. To the contrary, when you do something that as wrong, wrong will come back on you.  It happens all the time when you see people who win the lottery – they let wealth and material things destroy relationships and friendships.  But, money also brings out the true character of individuals good or bad. So, when you understand karma realize you are the energy source for positive action and recourse.  By the way, there is not enough money on this planet that can be exchanged for my wife. – Glenn D. Andrews-