Do you really want the truth?

I had to ask myself, do women really want honesty from a man? Can men honestly tell the truth? It was not that I was a practitioner of dishonesty, but I delayed delivering the truth.  In preparing to come to Morehouse College, I had already begun to de-construct my life as I know it.  I had to find my purpose in life and that my relationships had to be a reflection of my humanity and manhood. What became most significant to me was how my time on this planet was utilized.  I no longer put myself in situations where I felt my time was dis-respected. Establishing this position, I no longer involve myself with women if I felt I was wasting their time. Ego can work against you and it can work for you if its origin comes from a sincere space. That space must be about concern, growth, improvement and most of all respect. There has to be respect. -Glenn D. Andrews-

Luther Vandross – A House is not a Home

Luther Vandross: A House is not a Home

A chair is still a chair
Even when there’s no one sittin‘ there
But a chair is not a house
And a house is not a home
When there’s no one there to hold you tight
And no one there you can kiss goodnight
Woah girl

A room is a still a room
Even when there’s nothin‘ there but gloom
But a room is not a house
And a house is not a home
When the two of us are far apart
And one of us has a broken heart

Now and then I call your name
And suddenly your face appears
But it’s just a crazy game
When it ends, it ends in tears

Pretty little darling, have a heart
Don’t let one mistake keep us apart
I’m not meant to live alone
Turn this house into a home
When I climb the stairs and turn the key
Oh, please be there
Sayin‘ that you’re still in love with me, yeah

I’m not meant to live alone
Turn this house into a home
I climb the stairs and turn the key
Oh, please be there, still in love
I said, still in love, still in love with me, yeah

Are you gonna be in love with me?
I want you and need you to be, yeah
Still in love with me
Say you’re gonna be in love with me
It’s drivin’ me crazy to think
That my baby couldn’t be still in love with me

Are you gonna be? Say you’re gonna be
Are you gonna be? Say you’re gonna be
Are you gonna be? Say you’re gonna be
Well well, well well

Still in love, so in love, still in love with me
Are you gonna be?
Say that you’re gonna be
Still in love with me, yeah

With me, oh
Still in love with me, yeah

Songwriters
BURT BACHARACH/ HAL DAVID

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“That thang”

“That thang” I asked a good buddy of mine a question. I asked, “How come brothers cannot stay focused? With a straight face he said “That thang” just get brothers all messed up. We hustle for it, we steal for it, we lie for it, but right now we are not doing the things we need to do to earn it. We do want to do right for “that thang”; young black men have been searching for direction for generations. It is disappointing to say some of us got lucky, if you are conscious of what is going on around you. How come “that thang” does not motivate young brothers to study in school? Take responsibility of their communities and neighborhoods in a positive way? To have some pride. My manhood and sexuality is connected to my intellectual ability to be disciplined at all times. If I cannot control my sexuality, I then put my humanity, spirituality and community in my jeopardy. -Glenn D.Andrews –

Historical Timing

Many are blessed with the historic character and timing to be introspective when met with challenges. When a grown man takes the time to analyze what they have done right and what they have done wrong they are in a state of supreme consciousness.

Moreover, if they seek to improve regardless of their station in life, we are no longer liabilities in the world, but assets. African American women want an African American man to be all we can be and more. So, interactions have to be about an exchange of thoughts, beliefs, and standards and how each of us can a make our environment better.  I have to put in the work on my humanity, my manhood, my dreams and my aspirations every day. But, you have to be honest and accept what may come from brutal honesty and being wrong. You may find yourself alone, but not lonely, but no longer do you accept mediocrity and deceit from yourself or others. -Glenn D. Andrews