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The Definition of a Man as Defined by a Good Woman

A man is Strong; Men are strong both physically and mentally. A man’s mental strength is not defined in the times of triumph but in times of failure. It is only when pushed to a near breaking point does a true man become defined. Does he quit or does he get up and try again? Does he let himself be suppressed or does he rise to free himself from defeat?

A man is Decisive; A good man takes the time to think before he acts. His emotions do not decide his fate but rather his mind and when he comes to a conclusion, he sticks with it.

A man is Confident; Never to be deterred, a good man follows the beat of his own drum. He knows that the path he is on will lead him to where he wants to go. He does not let the questions of others bombard his mind or make impressions on his heart.

A man Knows When To Admit His Mistakes and Owns Up To Them; Even good men make mistakes. The test of a good man comes in how he makes up for the mistakes he has made. Does he repent and ask forgiveness from those he has harmed or does he shy away in shame at what he has done?

A man is Responsible; A good man is not only responsible but also takes responsibility for his actions. He can be trusted to live by his word and in times of his short comings, he does not simply brush it off.

A man is Kind; A good man does not play with a person’s emotions and makes sure that his intentions are made clear. He gives to those who give to them and helps where he sees a need.

A man is a Protector; Never to be toyed with, a good man does not back down when his loved ones are in danger. 

A man Understands His Woman; The true test of a man comes in his daily interactions with the one he calls his own. He knows her deepest secret and delves into the dark parts of her heart. A man knows and understands that without fully understanding the woman he is with, that any relationship between the two will fail.

About Carla Clunis
You can find more of Carla’s musings on love and relationships at where she blogs about the ups and downs of dating and relating.

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—— By: Carla Clunis

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noun \ˈkär-mə also ˈkər-\

: The force created by a person’s actions that is believed in Hinduism and Buddhism to determine what that person’s next life will be like

: The force created by a person’s actions that some people believe causes good or bad things to happen to that person

Karma. (n.d.). Merriam-Webster. Retrieved November 20, 2013, from

 My wife was listening  to Steve Harvey’s radio show this morning, and the question of what would you choose if someone offered you a lump sum of money in the exchange of your loved one.  The answer was easy for me because I understand KARMA.  What I have come to understand is when you do good deeds, good deeds will happen. To the contrary, when you do something that as wrong, wrong will come back on you.  It happens all the time when you see people who win the lottery – they let wealth and material things destroy relationships and friendships.  But, money also brings out the true character of individuals good or bad. So, when you understand karma realize you are the energy source for positive action and recourse.  By the way, there is not enough money on this planet that can be exchanged for my wife. – Glenn D. Andrews-


“Will you, _______, have _____ to be your wife/husband? Will you love her/him, comfort and keep her/him, and forsaking all other remain true to him/her as long as you both shall live?” (“I will”)

(Repeat) “I, ________, take thee ______, to be my wife/husband, and before God and these witnesses I promise to be a faithful and true wife/husband.”

(Rings) “With this ring I thee wed, and all my worldly goods I thee endow. In sickness and in health, in poverty or in wealth, ‘til death do us part.”

Over the last 22 years I have observed how my mom is taking care of my dad through a health crisis. Also, when my mom has faced a health crisis, it has been my dad who has been there for my mom. This week I had hernia surgery, although it is a simple surgery the recovery is anything but simple. My mom, dad and children are helping me with my recovery. My WIFE has managed this process and making sure I was O.K. I know what kind of family I have and we step up when there are challenges. What kind of family contract do you have in place for good times, as well as challenging times?


My Parents

My Parents


Integrity and Words

Irony is one those words that come to mind when I think about life experiences and relationships.  In the heat moment we will say our significant other lied or betrayed us. But, if we were really in the moment and paying attention to the pattern the writing was on the wall.  Sometimes even a lie is the truth about an individual, so as the saying goes “Honesty is the best policy”, you just have to be aware.  Your words, sentences and declarations rather lie or truths are a reflection of you. It does not take a long time for and individual to reveal their true self if you are observant. Since October 1992, I have always told my wife who at the time I was dating, the time I would call her. At the time she would allow me to use her car, and I would bring it back to her with a full tank of gas and clean. Today, I will call my wife or send her a text to let her know my lunch schedule, running errands after work or leaving a meeting or event.  This is simple courtesy and concern and is reciprocal. I may not be the richest man on this earth, but I know the value of my words and the integrity that follows my name. If you do not have that in your relationship from the beginning, you have nothing. -Glenn D. Andrews-