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“African -American history you will discover pain, loss, strength, faith, violence, victimization, tears, joy, capture and freedom. However, within the power of these words are the actions of them all. The black man must make conscious choices. This game is about mental, spiritual, financial, intellectual and physical fitness. In fact, the approach or goal should be high performance on all levels. But, it is not about ending in success, it is about being within the process and pursuit of success. Additionally, it is about those around you witnessing and observing you. There are no guarantees in life, but a little boy must have dreams, aspirations and hope. This game is about probability. What is the probability of a young black man going to college if he read books from pre-school to high school? Even more precise, what is the probability of intellectual confidence and manhood if young black men know their history? Second, this game is about the process of being a successful black man in spite of……. We must begin to understand the theories of probability. Furthermore, understand the variables that influences and direct if ….then of the black males life. 1. If a young black male reads books then what? 2. If a young black male has a father who understands manhood then what? 3. If a mother who understands the significance of the father being in his children’s life then what? 4. If the black man has self -respect and respect of women then what? 5. If young black men observe older black men working and taking care of a household then what? Life is about the expectations and probability. Life is a moment to moment operation. Every decision must be calculated, precise and decisive. The approach to your life must be based on classical and empirical probability theory. According to the classical theory, probability is the ratio of the favorable case to the total number of equally likely cases. Empirical or relative frequency probability is based on logic, past experience and present condition. My observations are what has happen, what is happening and what will continue to exist in the black community if Black men do not step up. I am not writing from the outside looking in. I realize there is microscopic line of separation between that brother in jail and me. I realize there is a microscopic line between that brother that did not go to school and me. I can address topics that pertain to black people, but I choose to focus on that of African –American manhood. We are not a monolithic community and although we do not think alike we have to better than we were yesterday. I see young brothers who claim to have no fear, and honestly they do not have any fear. But, the problem is we are misdirected, and the life map needs direction, mentorship and a belief that you can change your life. Our success depends on it. Learn from the failures so that the path does not lead to prison or death. Success also depends on faith, intervention, programming, planning, direction, effort and work. My truth, my manifestation is I have an ego bigger than this universe. Realizing there is no plan B or C. Yes, you may fail in pursuit of plan A, but you must never quit. Remove all negativity, whether it is family, friends and foes. Understanding we have enemies that expect failure, your success is there disdain. Family and friends look to you for motivation, direction and protection. You must not let them down; you must not let yourself down. Change is difficult, but you must take small steps in the opposite direction of chaos, drama, laziness and non-value added waste.
Actions then follow words and commitment follow actions. Over time a pattern is created that is the truth of what and who you are. I cannot live a life without truth. I find sadness and optimism in what I have observed over 50 years. What do we do? Embrace truth, challenge lies. This is not a boycott, is time for manifesting culture ! The truth hurts CHANGE WHAT YOU DO, WHERE YOU GO, and HOW YOU LIVE AND WHAT YOU LOVE!! I see Black men being devastated by systematic racism, pattern, behavior and ritual. The changes that have to be made are sometimes complicated. However, it does take a high degree of honesty. First, racism is structural on this planet, and the most difficult task is to navigate this world without a direction and maps. Know that the “elephant is in the room”; you must now look internally to who and what you are. If you cannot be honest with yourself, then your life and relationships will have no meaning.
Many are blessed with the historical character and timing to be introspective when met with challenges. When a grown man takes the time to analyze what they have done right and what they have done wrong they are in a state of supreme consciousness. Moreover, if they seek to improve regardless of their station in life, we are no longer liabilities to the world, but assets. African American women want African American man to be all we can be and more. So, interactions have to be about an exchange of thoughts, beliefs, and standards and how can each of us improve. I have to put in the work on my humanity, my manhood, my dreams and my aspirations every day. But, you have to be honest and accept what may come from brutal honesty and being wrong. You may find yourself alone, but not lonely, but no longer do you accept mediocrity and deceit from yourself or others. When you are wrong, re-assess and research your position to make sure you are not doing more harm than good. In the business world you can prevent defective processes by removing variation and noise. Six Sigma methodologies is a concept for improving quality by reducing process defects (correct processes that cause issues). The objective is to improve quality, performance and bring value to the business organizations processes, goods and services. Imagine if these processes were utilize in the schools and communities were expectations and standards have been neglected. Imagine if Six Sigma methodology was utilize to address relationship, family and community challenges. I know for a fact there are African-American Men taking care of their families, working, running organizations, worshipping the ground women walk on and representing manhood in the best possible way. Yet, if you only watch and listen to the media positive Black news are never accentuated. It is more negative than positive news and is to be expected. Therefore, you are correct! I am an angry black man! But, what is significant I am a man that has the right to be angry with the conditions and perceptions of me. ” Time for manifesting culture.
Going Along to Get Along. The easiest way to survive and advance, of course, is to capitulate and do what the system expects. And the best way to do this is to become a sycophant: you renounce your own will in favor of that of your superiors. You accept this self-abasement as the price for furthering your career. This also means giving up your individuality and the ability to shape your own opinions and set them against the opinions of others. Those who are willing to sublimate their talent and sacrifice their individuality on the altar of career advancement can – and often do – move up the organization just the way that Dr. Laurence Peter predicted in his bestseller, The Peter Principle, wherein an employee “tends to rise to his level of incompetence.” But they do so at the high price of dissatisfaction not only with their job, but with their own self-respect.
Learn how to play in the play pen! Not happening. Often love ones looking after your best interest are wrong. Throughout the history of this country African Americans have been told to capitulate under the auspice of security and not damaging your financial security. In short, do a dance with individuals you work with or work for with below standard intellect, standards and professionalism. If you do not dance you will lose your job or income stream. I can not do the dance. For over 30 years I have tried to “play in the play pen”, with individuals who place a higher value on fast talking than task execution. Fast talking would not be an issue if the man or woman honored their words. All I have in this world to be accountable is my handshake and my words. If I state that I will be responsible for a task, I will go out of my way to make sure that task and action is executed. I am a man of word. What comes with being a man of your word is being honest. With a degree in Economics, M.B.A. and Six Sigma Green Belt I have a clear understanding of the bottom line personally and professionally. Also, I am clear of the capitalism process and what it takes to own a business and run a business. No where in the definition of capitalism does it states immature, psychotic and unprofessional behavior from individuals is acceptable. Learn how to play in the play pen! Not happening. So, I find myself at a crossroads again trying to figure what is the lesson GOD wants me to learn. Is it hard to work with others? I have done that. Do I keep my mouth close and not gossip? I keep to myself. Do I come to work on time? I do that; As a matter of fact, I always start a couple minutes early. How about take a lunch longer that scheduled? Nope, often some positions I worked during lunch. How about do I leave work undone? There have been several occasions I stayed overtime or worked past my designated time to make sure a task was handle or a customer satisfied. What am I supposed to learn that my parents and the 10 commandments did not teach me? Learn how to play in the play pen! Not happening. When I was in graduate school one of our text books was Moral Intelligence, written by Doug Lennick and Dr. Fred Kiel. The definition of moral intelligence; “Moral intelligence is the capacity to understand right from wrong and to behave based on the value that is believed to be right. There are seven main points that build someone’s moral intelligence, such as empathy, conscience, self-control, respect for others, kindness, tolerance, belief in a Supreme being and fairness”. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Moral_intelligence
After weeks of discussions with friends and colleagues I have come to grasp several things I already knew about myself. Most of which I knew, but never clearly defined. First, I refuse to play in the play pen; I will run my own play pen. It is time for me to take my entrepreneurial projects to the next level. My academic background focus so much on structure and process to execute business decision you lose time and acting on opportunity. After, listening to Dr. Eric Thomas, he pointed out that he is a millionaire working out of his basement with no business cards or structures- He is simply about execution and results. I need to put my projects out to the world, and not delay due to my structured mindset. Second, the one curse or asset I have is I have no problem “jumping out of plane” when it is time to make a change. There may have been times in my life were I walked way from opportunities because of my expectation of the honor code from others. I cut people and organizations off with a quickness with no forgetting or forgiveness. Although, I do not lose any sleep over my behavior this is in my DNA and genetics. It is useless for me to say I forgive, because I do not. It is not who I am and I will take this to my grave. I know my family means well, but I will never learn how to play in the play pen. I need to keep focusing on my own playpen. Being dishonest and making concessions was never in my hereditary makeup and I am alright with that.
When I was completing my first book I went into detail about the climate and environment that feeds into rape culture. For several reasons young men are not being taught to make honorable decisions. Instead of protecting a young lady in vulnerable situations, they become predators. This is excerpt from my book that I published 2013.
There is an innate need in young black boys to do right first, before doing wrong, and external factors in the social environment begin to chip and erode all that is sincere and good. But, even when a young brother does all the right tasks in life and is responsible they are called nerds, soft or too nice. What is too nice? I spent years trying to figure out what does that mean? A man of his word will do what he says he will do. If a man says he will call at nine o’clock and he calls at nine o’clock that is a young man honoring his commitment. I do recognize that concern can be mistaken for stalking. The lines of stalking and concern are well defined and these issues can be addressed when this line is cross. Through my interactions with women, I began to realize how concern the majority of African American women is with African American men. But, I also discovered how we are interacting amongst each other as adversaries. In my heart and mind I knew this was not right. I knew this was not good for relationships and the black community as a whole. It has manifested in the pure fact that we have more single mothers, than married. Where are the fathers? Over half of the young ladies I knew or dated did not have their father in their life. The residue manifests itself in the way that boys and girls will grow up and approach there interpersonal relationships. Another dynamic that is never discussed is that individuals from two parent households are not having successful relationships as well. The current condition of the African-American community can be linked to several causes. However, one of the main causes is the lack of Black male leadership. However, because African-Americans are marginalized we are always the constant point of change. If you want to know what is the current conditions of economics, poverty, wealth, education, health and crime you will observe the scope and impetus of what will become a societal problem. So, just as the point of change can be negative, the slope and point of change can be positive. So, how wise is it to have conditions that foster riddles with no objectives.
The parables can be deciphered and the riddles solved. By the grace of God, my parents, family, friends, coaches, teachers and life experiences as I was going through my 30’s to 40’s, I was solving life’s riddles. The irony is I knew the answers when I was age 25.
I asked a good buddy of mine a question. I asked, “How come brothers cannot stay focused? With a straight face he said “That thang” just get brothers all messed up. We hustle for it, we steal for it, we lie for it, but right now we are not doing the things we need to do to earn it. We do want to do right for “that thang”; young black men have been searching for direction for generations. It is disappointing to say some of us got lucky, if you are conscious of what is going on around you. How come “that thang” does not motivate young brothers to study in school? Take responsibility of their communities and neighborhoods in a positive way? To have some pride. My manhood and sexuality is connected to my intellectual ability to be disciplined at all times. If I cannot control my sexuality, I then put my humanity, spirituality and community in my jeopardy.
Every man is guilty of all the good he did not do (Voltaire).
It is plausible that we have lost our purpose. In losing purpose it is not a perspective of passing judgment or ostracizing. We have to find that core and center that provides focus and purpose. I am in no way perfect, and do not profess to know it all. But, I do know I am a good man, and when it is all said and done, a great man. The emphasis is on man and all that it is required to be a man. So, I am in the midst of a new chapter in my life, representing my alma mater in the best way, and here again my Alma mater is facing challenges. In the implementing stages of one of the most significant events at Morehouse College, President Barack Obama speaking at the 2013 Commencement ceremonies, four Morehouse students has been accused of sexual assault. First, as I communicated with other alumni our concern goes to the young lady violated and to the scrutiny of Morehouse College. We are well aware of the margin of error that does not work in favor of black men and the statistical odds that change when you become a Morehouse man. But, I am a husband, once a younger black man, but more importantly the parent of a daughter and a future Morehouse man. The problem of young men singularly, or as pack committing sexual assault is fundamental pathological, psychological adverse behavior. This behavior is as old as mankind, but nevertheless it is unacceptable. While in college I had a part-time job as a bouncer and I had a group of guys I work with to secure house parties and private functions. Literally, at every function there would be young men and women who with the combination of alcohol and/or the pack mentality feel a need to be aggressive, insulting, disrespectful and criminal. On a few occasions my crew intervened when a young lady said “NO” and it was not honored. What I know now, and what I knew then is you can only teach prevention and not detection. I know what I will teach my daughter, but it is just as important what I am teaching my son. Morehouse College’s contribution to society far outweighs these circumstances and preventative measures will be put in place. Let’s be clear my Morehouse Brother’s must revere, respect and honor women, particularly the sisters of Spelman College and the surrounding community. But, not even before the senior class could take in this momentous occasion, we lost another brother, a Morehouse man to gun violence. My conversation on this topic is not about the dis-respect and dis-honor. But, that right now these current events are connected. Too often we assume that these events happen in a vacuum with narrow scope. Most people assume they have distance and space from these issues. These circumstances break our heart because we have a monolithic history. These challenges are tests of our humanity as a people and nation. From Africa, to slavery, Reconstruction, Jim Crow, lynching, civil rights, drugs, guns are we free yet? We have come so far, but there is a long way to go. The “elephant” will always be a burden in the room. Knowing this there is nothing in this universe that can deny you your humanity and will. But, we find ourselves between the “elephant in the room”, women and men who look like me that cause our communities more harm than good. My concerns are not for me, but for the sons and daughters who have dreams.
I continue to hear the discussion about the value or lack thereof of a college education. The discussion always center around the cost, getting a job and what you get from a formal education. I place this mentality right there next to those who have millions of dollars, who say money does not matter. Those with a formal collegiate education, technical school and millionaires who say after the fact say it is not the end all can take the nonsense elsewhere. Try telling Africans who were enslaved 300-400 years ago education was not of value.
In my last post, I made the case that a liberal arts degree remains a great investment, in the most practical of terms: skills development, career opportunity, and lifetime earnings. The question I would like to pose today is this: Does pursuing a liberal education also have intrinsic worth? Would it be worth choosing for its own sake, aside from all of its considerable practical value? The candidates for human endeavors worth pursuing for their own sake, even if nothing further came of them, are surprisingly few. They include endeavors or experiences like: loving another person; engaging in worship for those who practice a faith; having an aesthetically moving experience of art or music or nature; practicing benevolence, kindness, generosity, or compassion. To this list I would add the endeavor of becoming liberally educated. The very project of seeking understanding, of considering deeply and rigorously what is currently known in one’s own quest for understanding, and to advance the depth and completeness of human understanding overall, are among the most intrinsically worthy or valuable endeavors in the human scope. A liberal education is an expansion of consciousness: with every book read, every natural or social system grasped, every theory put to the test and employed, we become persons with greater scope and agency. Every book or poem, film or equation, image or idea that we struggle to grasp expands and complicates our souls and enlarges our capacities to make meaning of the world and effect change. Pursuing in earnest the personal and intellectual capacities that we say graduates should possess – independent thinking, integrative and collaborative inquiry, effective communication, global engagement and respect for diversity, civic and social responsibility, – amounts to a sort of soul craft. In the very process of liberal inquiry in the arts and sciences, one creates an identity, not just with greater breadth and depth of understanding, but also with greater capacity for action, greater freedom and independence, not only to pursue one’s own ends, but to influence positively the well-being of the world. During their time on campus, no matter what their majors, students pursuing a liberal education are certain at some point, perhaps at many points, to change their minds. Reflect on that phrase: “I changed my mind.” What a profound thing it is to change one’s mind. And that is exactly why the living and learning community of a liberal arts college exists. For many, perhaps most, of our students, these changes are hard won. They are the product of toil and struggle, of progress punctuated by failure and anxiety. Because in changing their minds, in making up their minds, they are engaged in the process of becoming; they are creating an identity out of the raw materials of their studies and experiences. And that, I submit, is a profoundly valuable and worthy human endeavor. It is also an enormous privilege, which carries with it the responsibility to deeply and seriously embrace the opportunity and then put it to work in the world to advance the opportunities of others. This whole package – of pursuing and advancing understanding, of making up one’s mind, of becoming oneself and equipping oneself to contribute to the well-being of the world – this is what we call liberal education. And, yes, it has inestimable value.
In a couple months I will be sending my son off to college and in two years I will be sending my daughter off into the college world. My parents and my in-laws did not have the opportunity to pursue higher education. However, my wife and I have both received the benefits of higher learning.
Reading, writing and arithmetic seems so simple to do and it is. One of the greatest things my parents did out of the many great things they did was to have books, magazines, newspapers and a bible in the house. A long time ago before the internet! There used to be door to door Encyclopedia sales and my parents bought a set and an interactive board called the Cyclo teacher. We had Jet, Ebony, and Black Enterprises in the house. I was into comic books at a young age, particularly Marvel Comics because they had African-American Super-heroes. I was avid reader of Sports Illustrated, Motor Trend, Road and Track and as I got older and into weightlifting I was reading Muscle Mag and Muscle and Fitness. My love of books comes from father, and once I started reading non-fiction books outside of my formal education it is the foundation of my conscience and intellect. I can point to four books that totally changed how I approached life and the world around me. These are the books, “The Souls of Black Folks, written by W.E.B. DuBois, The Isis Papers: The Keys to the Colors, written by Dr. Frances Cress Wesling, The Autobiography of Malcolm X, written by Alex Haley, and The Art of War, written by Sun Tzu. I wish my mother could have found her way to higher learning, because when it comes to math, finance and business acumen it was mother who managed my parent’s finances and investments. It is my mother who had the economic insight to recognize the timing of the real estate market. I had a bank account when I was twelve years old and this was the planning and genius of my mother. The only way to master reading, writing and arithmetic is to go to school and take education serious. In my parents’ house education came before sports and on time I got a D grade on an English paper in the seventh grade and I dad did not allow me to play baseball for 1 week. I will tell you 1 week in the major leagues might not be much but in little league 1 week is 2 to 3 games in a 14 game season! I escaped that class with a C+ but there were some circumstances surrounding this class and teacher because this was during forced busing and this teacher did not interact with some of the students and I was one of them. However, one of the lessons I got from this and would be very valuable later while I was in college, was no matter how the teacher and professor perform their job as a student you ( I ) have to do whatever it takes in class and outside of class to learn the task at hand. Learning and studying has to become a habit and skill. Once you have these two mastered there is nothing in this world you cannot do. If it is written down with directions you can make, build or achieve whatever your heart desires. But, you have to put in the work. In time because of the steps you learn in school and study habits you create on your own, where there are no directions or instructions you will be intelligent and smart enough to make your own directions. Knowledge of history, self and truth is power. In America, one of the problems with the educational system is that it is not built for a child who has never read a book or calculated math. When I started pre-school my mom had my brother and me reading, writing and doing math before we started school. The discipline along with the preparation had us ready to learn. Throughout the 1st grade to the 12th grade did I and my brother stumble? The answer is yes, but we had enough of a respect of the power of education that we could rebound from a so-so grade or illness to get back on track and not miss a beat. We are now living in a day and age where there is no room for a lack of preparation, discipline, and due diligence.
Moreover, the lack of teaching at home has affected how kids could learn in school. By the way, I have B.A. in Economics from Morehouse, M.B.A. from South University, Six Sigma Green Belt from Emory University, ACE certified trainer. I have published over ten books on African-American social & cultural challenges, health and wellness, have four blogs and owned two businesses. I could not have done any of this without the power of school, education and knowledge.
Cooning is a verb derived from the word coon. A coon was/is a person of African decent whose sole purpose was/is to entertain white people. These ‘coons’ started out as wearing black face, characterized by having big eyes and painting big red lips on their face. These people would tap dance, play instruments and sing.
Modern day coons are blacks who play stereotypical roles and black entertainers that promote ignorance. (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=cooning)
I do Smile sometimes? My wife often ask me why I do not smile in pictures, and why it is always so dark? It was a great questions that I really never thought about. I had to really think about it and why I gravitated to hardcore Hip Hop, being focus when working on a task and tunneling my thinking as if I was in the midst of battle. One would think with all that I have accomplish I would smile when relax. I have a great family, several degrees, not starving or cold. In professional settings I am polite and have great conversations with a diverse group of people and on many topics. I do Smile sometimes? There was time long time ago where stepping off the block was rolling the dice of rather you would be fighting or shooting. Often confrontation would find me, but in time I would learn the art of manliness and learn to walk away knowing what I would lose in the end. However, at 52 years old my wife’s inquiry made me realize who I am and where I am no longer. I do not live in the hood, in fact I live in country suburbia. I have not be in a physical altercation in over 30 years, but I remember all of them like they were yesterday. I remember being at the park and watching as a particular car would cruise back and fourth knowing the cruising was like a bomber pilot sizing up his target. My life has actually been filled with more joy than drama. But, the drama personally and professionally did not have a influence on conscious. My non initial smile and lack of smiling in photos unless prompt is more a sub-conscious reaction and protection from the world. I do Smile sometimes ? I have witness many faces smiling when they were not happy, smiling to adhere to being subordinate and smiling to save face. I am a nice guy, respectful and polite; but I have no patience for drama and/or Bu$$$hit. Anything, person, place or thing that lacks any honor I will not have anything to do with. My brother and I have a code our father blessed us with as we became grown men and we live and die by this code. Like being a Ronin, we are Alpha males who serve no master. A moment of silence is not for smiling or reflection, but a time for strategy and preparation. Maybe trauma is training, and training is the preparation of what may or may not come. I do smile, have a great environment but my subconscious experiences keeps me on guard.
We are great men in spite of the violence inflicted on us, the propaganda and the brainwashing. It is time to defend our names, history and reputations. This is an intellectual and spiritual pursuit that has expectations. The American educational system has no expectations for African Americans. If the system had proof of results we would not in 2015 continue to face the same problems that existed 60 years ago. So African American men have to take it upon ourselves to supplement, complement or dispute the training of our people. For too long we have been taught to do nothing for our self and to expect nothing. Some of us have become self-advocates of our own demise. In putting these thoughts down it was not my goal to offend anyone. But, we have nothing left to lose but to become extinct. However, I am unapologetic and progressive enough to know that there has to be a monumental shift and change in the way African American men think and act. (G. Andrews, The Mosaic of a Man)
Yes, there will be challenges and threats and in the business world you conduct what is called a S.W.O.T analysis to define what they are. You have to do this personally and S.W.O.T stands for strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats. Your life has details, characteristics and gifts that no one else has, it is your lane and no one can take it away from you. This is the gift from the higher power, I am not wasting mine. I only smile when I feel like smiling, this means you earned my respect.
I had a conversation with a old friend utilizing direct messaging. It was late and I was reading a book when the friend sent me a message. For some reason my concern for this friends well-being did not translate into concern. For what it is worth, I have a concern for the health and well-being of anyone I come in contact with, family, friends and strangers. Those who know me, know my life is about teaching health, fitness and wellness of the mind and body. But, I have a respect for personal space and what other’s believe. The greatest gift the powers bless me with is the ability discern what I am hearing, observing and how to predict expectations or outcomes. When you read everything you can get your hands on from the Encyclopedia to W.E.B. du Bois to Voltaire. But, you then add some history, science, anthropology and humanities with some life experiences and lessons, you can become a good measure of human needs versus human wants. This individual challenged my consciousness as a mentor, coach and personal trainer. First, I was disappointed because of how the conversation went in a direction that on the surface left me confused. It was not my intent to proposition this individual like I was a use car salesman hocking junk cars! But, I know who I am and what I am and what my intentions where. My intentions are always honorable and if that was missed in the conversation, I know I did not fail to convey that message. My life has taking on many paths by my design and that will not end until I die. I wake up every morning Thanking God I have another day, then the Alpha male kicks in and it is time dictate life versus life dictating to me. For this mentality I am unapologetic, because I recognize early in life talking, typing , direct messaging, crying, complaining and making excuses get you nowhere… only results and action matters. So, if your path in life has earned you the results and goals you talked about, fantastic! But, if you are talking about what you want versus what you need and a year from now you singing the same tune have the discussion with the person in the mirror. I address the man in the mirror years ago. There are many people in the health and fitness “business”. But, none will have my story and occupy my lane. The signature for this post….A honorable Alpha Grown man with only good intentions.
What would be better? To give birth to a young African American boy knowing the challenges he will face or to not comprehend the dilemmas? As I ponder this thought I considered a thought the great Frederick Douglas stated in The Narrative of the Life of Frederick Douglass:
“I would at times feel that learning to read had been a curse rather than a blessing. It had given me a view of my wretched condition, without the remedy. It opened my eyes to the horrible pit, but offered no ladder upon which to get out”
In a perfect world this would not even matter, however this world, this time is far from perfect.The truth is the conditions have never been perfect, and perfection for some is the dehumanizing and the extinction of others. If you are not prepared to make un-selfish choices and prepare your children by any means necessary, the odds are your children will have a life of tragedy. The quest starts with cultivating the intellectual ego. There is the colloquial definition of child development that takes on a different meaning as it pertains to the development of African American boys. Too often different gets confused with better or less than and a fear of being anti-America, anti-white, but in fact it is a necessity to be pro African American. When in fact until a child learns to respect themselves and develop intellectual determination, there is no respect at all. Because of the historical context of how America came to be the manifestations of implicit and explicit inhumanity have not been taught. It is more problematic for those individuals who are in denial of history. The intellectual ego is developed by reading the history of self and the world. It is cultivated by family pictures and stories. It is enhanced by the stories of individuals who look like them who have made a contribution to humanity. But, it is also beneficial for the young African American boy to be made aware of those who did not make the right choices and the consequences. Television, entertainment and social media are an affront to a young man with an intellectual ego. The intellectual ego is a sponge with no filter in the early stages of childhood development. When you understand the learning process and see what children are exposed to we see the logical conclusion. There are only three tasks. First task, African American only boys school that start at pre-school up to high school. The curriculum would not be any different than 1st through 12th grade; however there will be emphasis on African American history, contributions and failures to humanity. Second task, turn off every TV in the house and/or remove them. Television can only be introduced once a child has a since of self, discipline, purpose, family and world history. The role family plays in a young boy’s development are just as significant as the external community. When Dr. Kenneth and Mamie Clark conducted “the doll tests”, an African Americans role in entertainment was limited to none. However, African American children internalize a self-hate. The study pointed out that segregation; prejudice and discrimination were the main causes. Later, studies of this kind would also include poverty as an influencer along with segregation as the issue. Although, we do not exist in a segregated society legally, spiritually and intellectually we do. Isolation is the not the problem, it is the resources, availability of learning tools and having experience professionals develop and mentor boys to men. Although, young girls have succeeded where the boys have not, this context involves young girls as well. The developments from birth to 8 years old are influence by two things: genetics/DNA and environment. Third task, with the new technologies and social media, smart phones and laptops must be managed and or not allowed. It is so disappointing to have this great technology called the smart phone and it records drama, violence and tragedy. In some cases it is the tool and motivator to step outside of what is humane. This is a moral imperative if these three continue unchecked and not addressed. When you think of prenatal care it is isolated to the care and well-being of the mother during pregnancy. The prenatal care should extend into the community and environment of mother’s (parents) to be. This preventative care starts before a baby is born. We are bringing children into this world into a space that right now does not want them to succeed. This thought process is often a confusion of race and humanity. There is a subliminal context that is still primitive which is concerned with food, water and shelter. The challenge and fear of survival is the human condition. The contradiction is that we are civilized; we are not civilized, human beings have become more sophisticated with primitive behavior. We can build, destroy, give life and take life quicker and faster but this behavior is no different than it was 500 to 1000 years ago. There is an inherent monetary liability and asset in the color of your skin. The devaluation of birth begins before you are born… Wake up melanin is your asset, not your liability.
Do you truly wish to be free?
Do you depend on the idea of talking about freedom? So that it pacifies the neglect of being accountable.
Responsibility demands movement that is swift
And rehearsed from of state mind that go towards
The fire instead of running from the fire
Most are afraid and a few are inspired but some
Refused to be denied, refused to Quit
In real situations to too quit is never and option
In real situations we may fail, but you never let yourself be denied
Real situations demands the real honor
Not fake characters
There can be a balance between fearlessness and decency in dealing with the world around you. I am often struck by the discussion and critique of our existence within the American diaspora. The young black man is caught between those who look like him with no soul.
The other challenge is those who proclaim liberty, justice and fairness and propagandize with double meanings and metaphors. They have no soul. There is a hierarchy of becoming the best you can be that others will judge. So, in dealing with these two foes and make no mistake they are foes you have to decide if your legacy is that of immortality or infamy. The development of consciousness has to be a pattern and process that is done over time with consistency. There is no getting around environment, education, parenting or the lack thereof. Overcome and do whatever possible to unlock the power of your creativity, hopes and dreams. Every day should be a journey about strength to purpose. Recognized that there has been a campaign to demonize and define you as less than human. The climate and the standard has to change, and if what is happening right now politically, in the economy, and globally is not enough for you to wake up then you will be lost and invisible.
“Conservatism” in America’s politics means “Let’s keep the niggers in their place.” And “liberalism” means “Let’s keep the knee-grows in their place – but tell them we’ll treat them a little better; let’s fool them more, with more promises.” With these choices, I felt that the American black man only needed to choose which one to be eaten by, the “liberal” fox or the “conservative” wolf—because both of them would eat him. (Haley, Malcolm X, 373)